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GIRL TALK RISING
So I had the best time talking with my cousin yesterday. It was totally "unscheduled" girl time but nonetheless powerful beyond measure. Spontaneous combustion to say the least.
Our conversation ran the gamut....we talked about the beautiful shade of rust material her purse was made of... but we also talked about the backpacks she was filling with donated items for students going back to school ....and we talked about the social she was planning with her business partner for back to college kids in the fall.... and the Ignite your Purpose conference she'd be attending with her business partner Krystal in Atlanta.
Phew! and I thought I was busy. This girl is on fire!
Then we took a breather to say goodbye to the guys (my boys and their dad) and then we really got to talking! This was by no means pointless girl prattle or empty pontification but really it was one of the more enjoyable conversations I've had in a long time. There was some really deep and meaningful dialogue between our souls. If you must know, we also talked about the difference between abstinence and celibacy and the need for adolescents and adults alike to be clear about their choices.
Furthermore we examined what the bible has to say about the impact of those choices on our body temples. I will venture here to say that, anyone who attempts to exact undue influence on you to make unsafe choices is not a credible witness.
Of course that line of conversation led us down the path to then talk about the perils and pleasures of relationship building in our age of instant gratification and the ubiquitous 'ME'.
In light of that we discussed the work of a cutting edge author named Armani who wrote the book, 'This is Why I Won't Marry You'. This is a writer who is definitely gifted with insights into relationship building. Whenever someone tells you that one of the hallmarks of a relationship (or a good life for that matter) is to forgive and forget quickly and easily, then you do need to sit up straight and listen. Armani has obviously tapped into a zone of scriptural truth and spiritual enlightenment.
The girl talk then turned from Truth to the lies women and men tell themselves as a coping mechanism in this world of Trauma, Trouble, Temptation and Television. Television in my opinion being the trigger for all the other T's. The stuff television programming is made of is at an all time low save for the highs brought to us by shows such as OWN's Lifeclass. Or the all time high brought to us by Discovery in Nik Wallenda celebrating God as he hangs in the balance on a wire slung high across the Grand Canyon literally. (no lie).
Some times its hard to decide on what you will believe your eyes or your spirit. Yes we sometimes struggle earnestly with what our spirit is trying to tell us- It can be a struggle to dim the din of our internal voices. Not to mention the din of external crises such as the CNN report on the San Francisco Asiana Airlines crash that caught our attention literally mid sentence as we sat on my living room couch. There will always be Breaking News arresting our attention, demanding our participation, but we must befriend silence in order to find a compass. As we sat together and watched the news in silent disbelief we both knew in our spirits that we were watching a miracle unfold.
I won't bore you with much more of our conversation, but one of the last and most important things we talked about is the need for our young girls and boys to have a mentor in their lives. Once we have done the hard work of working on ourselves by dutifully showing up for our own life classes, then its time to reach back into our communities and give a hand up to girls and boys who were Born to Rise. Reach back to encourage them not to settle for the mediocre, but rather, to elevate the level of their own talk to the realm of wisdom and understanding - mindful of matters of the heart and the mind of God.
I made two subconscious decisions during this 'unscheduled' talk with my cuz. The first one is that, sometimes being too busy for anything, accomplishes nothing. Secondly I am just going to go ahead and START that book club I've been TALKING about. It's Time for us girls to do a BookTalk Rising. Shoot me an email me with suggestions for the title for our first book. Email: Tzpora@stelmosfire.org and be sure to join in the conversation here.
Love and Blessings